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You can be the happiest woman in the world

by xeniagreekmuslimah

Dr. ‘A’id al Qarni

With your beauty, you are better than the sun;

with your morals you are more sublime than musk;

with your modesty you are nobler than the full moon;

with your compassion you a more beneficial than rain.

So, preserve your beauty with faith, your tranquillity with contentment, your chastity with hijab.

Remember that your adornment is not gold, silver or diamond, rather, it is two rak’ahs at Fajr going thirsty when you fast for Allah, concealed charity which no one knows except Him, hot tears that wash away sin, a lengthy prostration born of utter submission to Allah, shyness before Allah when the inclination to do evil overwhelms you.

Clothe yourself with the garments of taqwa (piety) for you are the most beautiful woman in the world, even if your clothes are shabby. Clotheyourself with cloak of modesty, for you are the most beautiful woman in the world even if you are barefoot.

Beware of the life bewitching immoral disbelieving women, for they are the fuel of the fire of Hell.

O’ sincere Muslim, O’ believing woman who constantly turns to Allah, the Exalted, be like the palm tree and rise above evil and harm; if a stone is thrown at the palm tree, it lets its fruit drop (and does not retaliate).

It remains green summer and winter, and gives many benefits. Do not lower yourself to the level of trivial matters, and rise above all that may damage your modesty and honour.

A man had an argument with his wife and said, "I am going to make your life miserable." The wife calmly replied, "You cannot do that."

He said, "Why not?"

She said: "If happiness were to be found in money or jewellery, you could deprive me of it and take it away from me, but it is nothing over which you or any other person has control. I find happiness in my faith, and my faith is in my heart, and no one has power over it except my Lord."

The One Who created happiness is the Most Gracious, Most Merciful, so how can you seek happiness from anyone other than Him? If people had control over happiness, there would be no deprived or grieving person left on earth.

"Do not give up on yourself, because change is usually slow; you will encounter obstacles that will discourage you, but do not let these obstacles defeat you."

"Your gold is your religion, your adornment is your moral attitude, and your wealth is your good manners."

"When distress strikes and calamities come one after another, then say: La ilaha illallah."

"Take from the breeze its tenderness, from the musk its fragrance and from the mountains steadfastness."

"Do not make your problems the subject of conversations with others, for by doing so you create a barrier between yourself and happiness."

"The mother whose child falls from a high place should not waste time weeping; rather, she should focus on tending to his injuries."

"The most sincere generosity comes from those who do not have anything but recognise the value of a kind word and a smile, How many people give, but it is as if they are giving a slap."

"The most difficult time could be made easier by the smile of a confident person."

"Prepare for the worst, then you will feel that things are getting better."

"Do not feel sad or miserable because of some work that you could not complete, rather you should understand that the work of great people is never done."

"Be happy now, today, not tomorrow."

"Frustration is your worst enemy, for it has the power to destroy peace of mind."

"Your happiness does not depend on anyone else, rather, it is in your hands."

"Work is the fuel of hope and the enemy of failure."

"Yesterday is a dream that has gone and tomorrow is merely a beautiful hope. Only today is real."

"Physical well-being comes from eating little, mental well-being comes from sinning little, well-being of the heart comes from worrying little and well-being of the tongue comes from speaking little."

"Is she happy who shows her beauty to the dogs of mankind and displays her charm to the wolves of them?"

"Men regret speaking, but he will never regret silence."

"In order to be beautiful, your thoughts should be so."

"Man finds happiness in a word that comes from the lips of a woman."

"The strongest fortress is a righteous woman."

"Nothing raises the status of a woman like chastity."

"If a beautiful woman is a jewel, a righteous woman is a treasure."

"The best thing a man can have is a faithful wife."

"Be beautiful and you will see the world beautiful."

"A wise man said: ‘I have never regretted what I did not say, but I have often regretted what I did say.’"

"Do not wait to be happy so that you smile but smile to be happy."

"Be optimistic, even if you are in the eye of the storm."

"Soon the flowers will bloom, grief will depart and happiness will prevail.

"Leave the wrongdoer to the court of the Hereafter when there will be no judge but Allah"

"Sickness is a message in which there is a glad tiding; and good health is a garment that has a price."

"Plant a tasbih (saying Subhan Allah) in a second, an idea in a minute, and a deed in an hour."

"Control your thoughts and you will be happy."

"The successful woman is supplicated for, praised by her husband, loved by her neighbours and respected by her friends."

"All people will live, the one who lives in a palace and the one who lives in a hovel. But who is the one who is happy?"

"Wipe away the tears of the orphan in order to attain the pleasure of the Most Merciful and a house in Paradise."

"Prayer is guaranteed to bring tranquillity and chase away worry."

"Buy with charity the du’a and love of the poor and needy."

"Allah loves those who repent and turn to Him."

"Giving up sin is Jihad (fighting in Allah’s Cause), but persisting in it is stubbornness."

"How can he feel relaxed or content, who harms a Muslim or a slave?"

"Beware of the du’a of the one who has been wronged and the tears of the one who has been deprived."

"In the sound heart there is no room for shirk (polytheism), deceit, rancour or envy."

"The wise woman turns a desert into a beautiful garden."

"Futile arguments and trivial discussions take away the sense of peace and tranquillity."

"Wherever you go and find darkness in your life; what you have to do is to light the lamp within yourself."

"Changing from bad to good is a long-term adventure, but it is wonderful."

"If you give in to despair, you will learn nothing and you will never find happiness."

"Check your past and your present, for life is a sequence of experiences from which one should emerge victorious."

"Do not be content to have some dark areas in your life, for the light is there; all you have to do is to turn it on and see it shining."

"Stop regretting your sin and think about the good deeds with which you are going to replace it."

"Happiness exists in you and you should focus your efforts on yourself."

"We need money in order to live but that does not mean that we need to live for the sake of money."

"Cast away all discouraging thoughts that make you feel helpless, and focus on success, then you will never fail."

"If you fail in one of your deeds, you should not give in to despair; do not worry and never doubt that you will find a solution."

"Do not complain about your problems except to those who can help you with advice and kind words."

"The mother whose child falls from a high place should not waste time weeping; rather, she should focus on tending to his injuries."

"Learn how to co-exist with fear and it will disappear."

"Prepare for the worst, then you will feel that things are getting better."

"Do not worry about things that you cannot perform, rather, spend time on improving what you can improve."

"Be happy with what is in your hand, content with whatever Allah has decreed and give up all daydreams that do not suit your efforts and abilities."

"If you have made mistakes in the past, learn from them, then let them go."

"Do not be a chronic complainer, or an amateur complainer!"

"Self-confidence means finding meaning in life regardless of your age; and being able to gain more from life."

"Regret cannot salvage a ship from the bottom of the sea."

"The value of life is to live every minute of it."

"We cannot change the past or draw the future as we want. Why should we kill ourselves regretting something that we cannot change?"

"There is nothing difficult or impossible in life so long as you are able to work and move."

"There is one way that leads to happiness: stop being worried about the things beyond your control."

"You should not spend half your life in disputes."

"We waste our happy times for valueless things."

"Always bear in mind the picture of success and keep it alive in your mind."

"Dismiss the idea of failure out of your mind."

"Thinking of happiness will inevitably lead to thinking of what comes before and after, and that, in itself, spoils the sense of happiness."

"Of quickest message of happiness to others is a sincere smile from the heart."

"A false smile is a blunt sign of hypocrisy."

"The way to happiness is in front of you, so seek it by means of knowledge, righteous deeds and a good attitude. Be moderate in all your affairs and you will be happy."

"A woman may turn the home into a paradise or into an unbearable hell."

"The greatest blessing is goodness in the soul which makes one happy."

"Count Allah’s blessings upon you, not your problems."

"Real beauty lies in beautiful behaviour, manners and mind"

"Foul tongues causes more trouble to their owners than to their victims."

"The happiest man is the one who makes the largest number of people happy."

"The wise man seeks to benefit from wise opinions; he never despairs or gives up thinking and trying."

"Frustration is your worst enemy, for it has the power to destroy peace of mind."


Source: Ibn Adam